I figured out how I am going to do it!!! 
It still involves an output… but send the mix from the ME-1 to one of the inputs on the 2412, then give it a channel number, then assign that channel to an aux out… then send the aux out to the amp!!
That way it has to go through me to get to the monitor…. and that way I can mute a monitor if need be…. that was my goal… I didn’t really care about mix too much.
Thanks for the help… it got me to thinking of a way to make this work! 
